Never Gonna Come Back Down

okay seriously

authors?

if you are trying to depict addiction recovery of any kind, you need to look into what 'dry-drunk syndrome' entails. (no, that is not a pejorative term, and anyone who uses it thus is doin it rong. it's a descriptor. bear with me, i'll splain.)

also you need to not present this kind of behaviour as virtuous/good/ideal/healthy.

it's not.

it's not good for the person in recovery and it's not good for their loved ones.

cessation of the actual substance abuse is only the beginning of things, okay?

the behaviours described as dry-drunk syndrome are a sign that someone is not doing the mental homework necessary to recovery. they've stopped drinking alcohol/taking drugs, but they haven't done anything ELSE, whether out of thinking quitting is enough or out of not knowing WTF to do or something else...either way, they've stalled.

so sometimes they act like sanctimonious judgemental holier-than-thou douches, and sometimes they throw huge pity parties that last ages, and sometimes they're snarly and dickish as hell, and sometimes they get into these THOSE WERE THE DAYS~~~~ nostalgia fits that drive everyone around them up a wall tl;dr it's disordered behaviour, it's not healthy, it's not good, it's not a sign of strength of character--and conversely it's not a sign that they are innate magnum douches who fail at life. it's a sign that somebody in recovery has gotten stuck in a rut and is spinning their wheels and needs a boost.

i've heard people say that someone in recovery basically goes through the stages of grief, and from what i've seen--yeah, they do. someone engaging in the disordered behaviours and thinking that get called dry-drunk syndrome are stuck in a rut in some phase or another preceding acceptance.

again, this kind of behaviour doesn't mean someone is a bad person, or a failbox, it just means they're in a rut and prone to driving people around them nuts lol and in need of support/counseling--and it should absolutely not be upheld as ideal or virtuous or healthy, because that's enabling bullshit and i will elbow drop the BALLS off of anybody who proclaims that this behaviour is good for people. kthxbai.

if you're gonna depict addiction recovery do your homework or i will bite your knees off.

this rant brought to you by stupid sheltered ignorant people's depictions of addiction recovery, esp. dealing with WoW characters of various sorts. :P

Okay, fandom, this should go without saying, but if you're writing same-sex relationships--be they monogamous or poly--then you should really not EVER be seen dismissing the IRL concerns and issues LGBTQ&c. folks face.

You should never fucking get caught pissing and moaning and fapping to the tune of "oh bawwwwwwwww they're all taking things toooo seeeeheeheeeeeeriously abloobloobloooo, guyyyyyyyys loooooook they're harshing my squeeeee waaaaahhh omgtehgaysaremeeeeean bawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww~"*

You should never be fucking seen crying about us 'shoving it down your throats' (my my my, how Freudian you are)when we hold hands or have big fabulous gatherings, because, OMG, no one wants to SEE that, we're only allowed to be gay if you don't have to think about it!**

Don't fucking do that shit if you write same-sex pairings.

Because that makes you look like a giant fucking choad.

It makes you look like a giant, wanky, immature, snotty, snitty, whiny, ignorant, objectifying, disgusting, putrid, entitled, loudmouthed, bratty fucking choad.

*yes, this is pretty fucking much what it sounds like.

**YES, that's really pretty much what you're fucking implying.