Meta: On sex and sexuality and villains and Issues related to these

As of late I've seen this mainly as it pertains to WoW but it happens so damn often all over that I can tag this post general meta.

To disclaim beforehand: yes I know that kinky relationships can be abusive, yes I know that poly relationships can be abusive. It is not that these relationships are abusive just because they are poly and kinky, though; it is because they are abusive relationships. Poly and kink just give douchebiscuits another vector to funnel the abuse through.

Anyhow. I'm sure I've touched on this before, but I need to again:

Please stop using ~sexual deviancy~ as proof that a character is evil.

I see this done over and over and OVER AND OVER, and it's issue-laden as hell, and when it's applied to characters who are female, queer, or coded as non-white, it gets worse. I'll explain how.

(Warning: I discuss racist BS, homophobic BS, sexist BS, abusive relationship patterns and suchlike below the cut. If you'd rather not read it, that's completely fine. Sometimes you don't have the juice.)

Also, if I've doofed out or gone out of line at any point, let me know and i will fix it.

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